Mark - I wanted you to see what the teachers have said since we last spoke! We have had a victory- hopefully
the beginning of many! It works, it really works! You are a God send!
THANK GOD!! WOOHOOO -- B.I.
Teachers write:
"So far today D___ has continued to surprise me. He has done wonderfully. Way to go
mom. Now we know the rest of the story and what needs to be done to get his attention.
He is a great kid!!!"
"I wanted you to know that D___ had a terrific day yesterday. He finish all the
assignments he was missing and he raised his hand the correct way to get help. He
followed all the rules just like he was supposed to do. He earned his behavior clip and he
seemed to be very proud of it. He has come in this morning and without my telling him he
started to work. I am seeing a totally different kid and I love it. I will try to let you know
more later."
===========================================================================
Thanks Mark. After reading some of your ebook, it makes me realize areas we have to work on. Not ONE
counselor we've ever seen has ever made more sense -- we've wasted hours in counseling. We are going to
take some positive steps forward now. -- E. & P.
===========================================================================
Mark Hutten,
You completely rock!! I am only on Week #1, and I am already seeing a change. I am so impressed with your
web site. I keep finding more and more good, helpful stuff! Thank you and your staff so much! May God
bless you as you help us one child at a time to stop the insanity of out of control kids. -- Ociana
===========================================================================
Today, I spoke to my son's former counselor (whom I was asking for a referral for another counseling,
which I did before I found your ebook). I told her, “I think I don't need it for now,” because I found your
site. I gave her your site and told her to spread the word about your ebook, since her job deals with parents
and kids of similar problems.
In a week's time, I've seen a great change. I can see some smiles on his face little by little.
Thanks again for all the help! -- A.D.
===========================================================================
Thanks again Mark. I have been very impressed with your advice and felt I should "pay it forward" as we
feel we are getting such extreme value for our money. As such, I sent your web mail address to the doctor
who was "trying" to help us. Our Aspergers son was so extremely disrespectful during our visit with the
doctor that he was exasperated at the end and told us there was nothing more he could do and so we should
consider kicking him out at 18 and prior to that, send him to a home for "raging" children if his behaviour
continued. I also note that our doctor has a Psychology degree.
I know he has many cases such as ours, so I sent him your website to pass on to other parents who would
benefit from this resource.
Kindest regards,
S.
===========================================================================
Good morning Mark;
Just started reading your Ebook and WOW, even if my Aspergers daughter who is 14 is not as bad as some,
just dealing with small issues compared to some, I just have this calming feeling that we are going to be ok
and I started the techniques from Assignment 1 and already can see a look of astonishment on my daughters
face.
So on that note - Thank you and I am looking forward to what else the program has to offer.
Thanks Mark, everything you state just in the first 30 odd pages hit the nail on the head!
Have a wonderful day - because my daughter and I will try too!
J.S.
===========================================================================
Mark-
I am only on the second week of your program, but I am already seeing an amazing and positive difference
in my daughter. We have struggled with her behavior since she was 9 months old. I was humbled and
astounded to learn that I was a big part of the problem in the way that I was reacting to her. We actually have
some peace in our home and she even hugs us and says “I love you” on a regular basis. She has even begun
apologizing for getting angry and being unreasonable.
The next step is to help her bring her grades up and stay out of trouble at school. I have every confidence
that we have turned a corner and I’m referring everyone I know to your program.
Thank you!
T.E.
===========================================================================
I should mention our successes. Last week, our AS son received a merit award at school assembly for his
‘amazing improvements’ in class. He was also sent to the headmaster to show him a piece of creative writing
he’d done, which was beautiful, detailed and above all way beyond what he was asked to do (he had been
doing absolute minimum, and nowhere near what he is capable of). The headmaster wrote him a note of
congratulations, which he proudly brought home. Mark, I just want you to know this is completely
unprecedented. I believe it is entirely due to the changes we’ve made at home by following the program . As
you mentioned, it is going to take some time to turn around behaviour that has become habit over 11 years,
and I’m sure there are continuing challenges ahead, but we really want to thank you this program, and the
insight and support it provides.
Best regards,
L.
===========================================================================
Dear Mark,
I ordered your ebook and talked to you on the phone about my daughter with Asperger Syndrome a while
back and just wanted to say thank you and let you know that your methods work for us! As you predicted,
first the frequency of conflicts decreased at first and then later the intensity decreased. And better yet, the
conflicts we have now are about less critical matters, for example, over staying on the internet too long
rather than over staying out with unsavory friends too late. We communicate much better, too.
S.
===========================================================================
I will tell you that I've done the first two steps and I'm still reading, but I wanted to have a copy handy
electronically to build a cheat sheet and mold my mantras. Thanks so much for writing this, I was a little
hesitant at first when I was browsing your site...but in the end, I was more like...it can't hurt and if it teaches
me one thing...then for that I will be a better parent.
Your statement you make in the first step "I have an obligation to you, my child, as a parent to..." That
statement alone made me a better parent. I've said it to my son and I've said to others in my life who would
like to be a bigger priority in my life. This statement has made things even more clear to me...as a single
parent and for that I'll always be grateful. Thanks again.
Sign me "an obligated parent who gladly accepts the honor of releasing into this world (eventually) an
upstanding, independent, responsible, young, adult male."
Gracefully,
R.V.
===========================================================================
Dear Mark,
I wanted to let you know we have completed the first section of program and are starting on section 2.
Today I had the challenge of saying 'no' and sticking to it when my son wanted me to make an exception to a
consequence he was given for hitting his younger sister. This morning he told me he hated me and that he
wished I would get into a car accident on the way home from driving him to school. I was able to apply the
art of removing my myself from his comments emotionally and better yet, and when he asked me later if he
could go to his friend's (because he was doing better in school and really trying), I was able to say no, and
that I am proud he is doing better in school, however, I gave the reason for the continued consequence. I
was ready to say, I will not argue, and didn’t have to as he said okay and then apologized for saying what he
said to me this morning. I then was able to tell him that he gets angry and says those things as he has trouble
expressing emotions. (I had written ALL the points down today and they were in front of me when he got
home from school.) I said we would need to work on this and that I love him very much. We ended the
conversation without further problems.
You have to understand that he has been out-of-control for almost a year now so this was a huge step in the
right direction.
I know this is just a start, but it feels so good to have some tools to use that really work. Thank-you so much
and I will keep you posted. -- S.S.
===========================================================================
Just a quick note to say thank you for your program. You have done a really great job on this and it was
very affordable. My mother bought me ‘The Total Transformation’ – a $300 program! – while I must say
that any additional tools I get out of it will be worth any cost, I honestly received more helpful information
out of your program. My Aspergers son and I were going down a very ugly spiral – I am a single mom and
always the “bad guy”. He got to the point that he simply defied the punishments and the behavior got worse
each day.
It has only been a month and school has been out for the last couple weeks, but I feel like we are making
progress. This gave us a new direction and I have had much more PEACE! One of the biggest problem areas
is the failing grades at school – it really took a load off of me to stop micro-managing that area. Since he had
been totally grounded for so long and really got worse when he was simply “ungrounded” altogether, I had
him earn the free time by getting passing grades. If he works at school and does homework, it gives him
enough “earned time” that he is essentially ungrounded. It also transitioned our house from “negative
consequences for bad behavior” to “positive response for good behavior”. The biggest turn around was
lowing the bar to the point he couldn’t fail – “Come home from school on time today and you can have an
hour of free time tonight”. It gave him a light at the end of the tunnel that he did not have before – and he
ran to it!
Thanks,
A.
===========================================================================
You have given us so much relief by responding to our questions. Thank you very, very much. Your book
is great, and we can't tell you how much we appreciate your dedication to teaching parents how to deal with
difficult Aspergers kids, like the one we have! -- B. & B.
===========================================================================
It was a Godsend to speak to you, and again -- I thank you!
I am better today. Lia is home. I tried your the technique you teach of "give some praise through a wired
shut by anger mouth"... :-) ..., yesterday on Lia. She DID the dishes, 1st time out and good.
After she finished them I said "TTTttttttthhhhhhaaannnnnkkkkk (aaarrrgggggggaAAaag) Yyyyyoooouuuu.
You did the dishes great and even put them away without being asked. Want to help with dinner?"...
I swear she stood frozen, like a deer cemented in headlights, and eventually said "sure". So today is a new
day. A thankful while hopeful day for the ONE day of peace I had yesterday and for the hope of adding
another day today. It is at least a start. Thank you!
Take Care,
D.
===========================================================================
Thank you so much for being available -- I still can't get over your generosity! It seems amazing to me that
I have no one to talk to about these things, and I need to rely on a stranger half way around the world -- but
God bless you for your work -- things have really improved since I started this process -- it was so out of
control, and overwhelming. -- L.W.
===========================================================================
Tara and I joined your website for our 6 year old quite a few months back. Let me say this after having gone
through many different programs for difficult children, your program is very solid. We have told our
current counselors and connections about it so that other parents of Aspergers children may use your very
good resources, too. Our AS son is to the point now where he no longer argues. – T.M.
===========================================================================
Thank you for your concern for others. My husband and I were at the end of our ropes. I prayed for
wisdom and God certainly answered my prayer. I have already tried some things on the first week actually
the day I ordered this and to my amazement - they worked!! I had already been thinking the turmoil was like
a drug for my daughter and I was right. Thank you so much and God Bless you! – E.H.
===========================================================================
I have purchased your e-book and cd’s... just wanted to say how amazing your work is proving to be. I work
in psychiatry but have struggled to discipline my Aspergers son and to understand his behaviour. I have put
in to practice the first week session and already it is working. Your insight into meltdowns is amazing... it
was like you had written it all for my son and I. Thank you, a thousand times, thank you. I’ll keep you
informed of J__’s progress, my 7 year old out of control child!
T.
===========================================================================
Would you recommend this program to friends or family?
Definitely. I have recommended it many times already.
Did you get a timely response to your emails?
I have not needed to email yet, But Mark has kept to his word on everything else, so I am confident emails
would be timely.
What was the most helpful feature of Online Parent Support?
When I started the program, I felt so lost and helpless. Mark said things that made me swear he knew my
child personally. Everything I read seemed to be about my child. This was how I knew this program was
different, and that it could work. The steps were easy to follow, and the results were fast.
What was the least helpful?
I cannot think of one thing I would change about this program. Thank you so much.
Additional Comments:
My child had been on medication for for several years. It never seemed to help the way we hoped. His anger
was out of control and most of the walls in our home had holes from him punching them. He was violent with
his siblings and distant from us. I found your program while looking for a treatment facility to send him
away to. I knew it was not safe for his brother and sister if he stayed in our home. About 2 and a half weeks
into your program we were able to take him off the medication and he continued to improve. (His doctor
insisted we were making a huge mistake and that medication was the only way to help him.) He is changing
into a more confident self-controlled person thanks to your program. He used to scream at me how much he
hated me. Now when he does not get his way he will yell, “Why are you such a good parent??? God, I love
you so much!! Why can't you be a rotten parent like my friends parents???” He will try to sound angry, but
he is letting me know he is happier with the way things are now. He is learning to diffuse tense situations as
well. We have both become better people. Thank you for giving me my son back.
K.
===========================================================================
Mark,
I just wanted to follow up to let you know that your program is spot-on! I am just starting Session 3 in your
materials and using the suggestions in my household with my 10 year old. He is blown away with my lack of
engagement with his verbal attacks, behaviors and disrespect. I'm following your advice and using my words
and actions carefully, as well as being consistent, and he is totally confused as to what happened to me. I
simply refuse to let him get me angry or engage in his misbehavior; then I talk to him about consequences of
continued behavior. It took several days of me calmly repeating myself with these new rules. He is coming to
realize that he can't push my buttons anymore.
Thank you so much for making this program so affordable and supportive for the parent!!! I think we will
make it through the next four years in a much calmer household.
D.B.
the beginning of many! It works, it really works! You are a God send!
THANK GOD!! WOOHOOO -- B.I.
Teachers write:
"So far today D___ has continued to surprise me. He has done wonderfully. Way to go
mom. Now we know the rest of the story and what needs to be done to get his attention.
He is a great kid!!!"
"I wanted you to know that D___ had a terrific day yesterday. He finish all the
assignments he was missing and he raised his hand the correct way to get help. He
followed all the rules just like he was supposed to do. He earned his behavior clip and he
seemed to be very proud of it. He has come in this morning and without my telling him he
started to work. I am seeing a totally different kid and I love it. I will try to let you know
more later."
===========================================================================
Thanks Mark. After reading some of your ebook, it makes me realize areas we have to work on. Not ONE
counselor we've ever seen has ever made more sense -- we've wasted hours in counseling. We are going to
take some positive steps forward now. -- E. & P.
===========================================================================
Mark Hutten,
You completely rock!! I am only on Week #1, and I am already seeing a change. I am so impressed with your
web site. I keep finding more and more good, helpful stuff! Thank you and your staff so much! May God
bless you as you help us one child at a time to stop the insanity of out of control kids. -- Ociana
===========================================================================
Today, I spoke to my son's former counselor (whom I was asking for a referral for another counseling,
which I did before I found your ebook). I told her, “I think I don't need it for now,” because I found your
site. I gave her your site and told her to spread the word about your ebook, since her job deals with parents
and kids of similar problems.
In a week's time, I've seen a great change. I can see some smiles on his face little by little.
Thanks again for all the help! -- A.D.
===========================================================================
Thanks again Mark. I have been very impressed with your advice and felt I should "pay it forward" as we
feel we are getting such extreme value for our money. As such, I sent your web mail address to the doctor
who was "trying" to help us. Our Aspergers son was so extremely disrespectful during our visit with the
doctor that he was exasperated at the end and told us there was nothing more he could do and so we should
consider kicking him out at 18 and prior to that, send him to a home for "raging" children if his behaviour
continued. I also note that our doctor has a Psychology degree.
I know he has many cases such as ours, so I sent him your website to pass on to other parents who would
benefit from this resource.
Kindest regards,
S.
===========================================================================
Good morning Mark;
Just started reading your Ebook and WOW, even if my Aspergers daughter who is 14 is not as bad as some,
just dealing with small issues compared to some, I just have this calming feeling that we are going to be ok
and I started the techniques from Assignment 1 and already can see a look of astonishment on my daughters
face.
So on that note - Thank you and I am looking forward to what else the program has to offer.
Thanks Mark, everything you state just in the first 30 odd pages hit the nail on the head!
Have a wonderful day - because my daughter and I will try too!
J.S.
===========================================================================
Mark-
I am only on the second week of your program, but I am already seeing an amazing and positive difference
in my daughter. We have struggled with her behavior since she was 9 months old. I was humbled and
astounded to learn that I was a big part of the problem in the way that I was reacting to her. We actually have
some peace in our home and she even hugs us and says “I love you” on a regular basis. She has even begun
apologizing for getting angry and being unreasonable.
The next step is to help her bring her grades up and stay out of trouble at school. I have every confidence
that we have turned a corner and I’m referring everyone I know to your program.
Thank you!
T.E.
===========================================================================
I should mention our successes. Last week, our AS son received a merit award at school assembly for his
‘amazing improvements’ in class. He was also sent to the headmaster to show him a piece of creative writing
he’d done, which was beautiful, detailed and above all way beyond what he was asked to do (he had been
doing absolute minimum, and nowhere near what he is capable of). The headmaster wrote him a note of
congratulations, which he proudly brought home. Mark, I just want you to know this is completely
unprecedented. I believe it is entirely due to the changes we’ve made at home by following the program . As
you mentioned, it is going to take some time to turn around behaviour that has become habit over 11 years,
and I’m sure there are continuing challenges ahead, but we really want to thank you this program, and the
insight and support it provides.
Best regards,
L.
===========================================================================
Dear Mark,
I ordered your ebook and talked to you on the phone about my daughter with Asperger Syndrome a while
back and just wanted to say thank you and let you know that your methods work for us! As you predicted,
first the frequency of conflicts decreased at first and then later the intensity decreased. And better yet, the
conflicts we have now are about less critical matters, for example, over staying on the internet too long
rather than over staying out with unsavory friends too late. We communicate much better, too.
S.
===========================================================================
I will tell you that I've done the first two steps and I'm still reading, but I wanted to have a copy handy
electronically to build a cheat sheet and mold my mantras. Thanks so much for writing this, I was a little
hesitant at first when I was browsing your site...but in the end, I was more like...it can't hurt and if it teaches
me one thing...then for that I will be a better parent.
Your statement you make in the first step "I have an obligation to you, my child, as a parent to..." That
statement alone made me a better parent. I've said it to my son and I've said to others in my life who would
like to be a bigger priority in my life. This statement has made things even more clear to me...as a single
parent and for that I'll always be grateful. Thanks again.
Sign me "an obligated parent who gladly accepts the honor of releasing into this world (eventually) an
upstanding, independent, responsible, young, adult male."
Gracefully,
R.V.
===========================================================================
Dear Mark,
I wanted to let you know we have completed the first section of program and are starting on section 2.
Today I had the challenge of saying 'no' and sticking to it when my son wanted me to make an exception to a
consequence he was given for hitting his younger sister. This morning he told me he hated me and that he
wished I would get into a car accident on the way home from driving him to school. I was able to apply the
art of removing my myself from his comments emotionally and better yet, and when he asked me later if he
could go to his friend's (because he was doing better in school and really trying), I was able to say no, and
that I am proud he is doing better in school, however, I gave the reason for the continued consequence. I
was ready to say, I will not argue, and didn’t have to as he said okay and then apologized for saying what he
said to me this morning. I then was able to tell him that he gets angry and says those things as he has trouble
expressing emotions. (I had written ALL the points down today and they were in front of me when he got
home from school.) I said we would need to work on this and that I love him very much. We ended the
conversation without further problems.
You have to understand that he has been out-of-control for almost a year now so this was a huge step in the
right direction.
I know this is just a start, but it feels so good to have some tools to use that really work. Thank-you so much
and I will keep you posted. -- S.S.
===========================================================================
Just a quick note to say thank you for your program. You have done a really great job on this and it was
very affordable. My mother bought me ‘The Total Transformation’ – a $300 program! – while I must say
that any additional tools I get out of it will be worth any cost, I honestly received more helpful information
out of your program. My Aspergers son and I were going down a very ugly spiral – I am a single mom and
always the “bad guy”. He got to the point that he simply defied the punishments and the behavior got worse
each day.
It has only been a month and school has been out for the last couple weeks, but I feel like we are making
progress. This gave us a new direction and I have had much more PEACE! One of the biggest problem areas
is the failing grades at school – it really took a load off of me to stop micro-managing that area. Since he had
been totally grounded for so long and really got worse when he was simply “ungrounded” altogether, I had
him earn the free time by getting passing grades. If he works at school and does homework, it gives him
enough “earned time” that he is essentially ungrounded. It also transitioned our house from “negative
consequences for bad behavior” to “positive response for good behavior”. The biggest turn around was
lowing the bar to the point he couldn’t fail – “Come home from school on time today and you can have an
hour of free time tonight”. It gave him a light at the end of the tunnel that he did not have before – and he
ran to it!
Thanks,
A.
===========================================================================
You have given us so much relief by responding to our questions. Thank you very, very much. Your book
is great, and we can't tell you how much we appreciate your dedication to teaching parents how to deal with
difficult Aspergers kids, like the one we have! -- B. & B.
===========================================================================
It was a Godsend to speak to you, and again -- I thank you!
I am better today. Lia is home. I tried your the technique you teach of "give some praise through a wired
shut by anger mouth"... :-) ..., yesterday on Lia. She DID the dishes, 1st time out and good.
After she finished them I said "TTTttttttthhhhhhaaannnnnkkkkk (aaarrrgggggggaAAaag) Yyyyyoooouuuu.
You did the dishes great and even put them away without being asked. Want to help with dinner?"...
I swear she stood frozen, like a deer cemented in headlights, and eventually said "sure". So today is a new
day. A thankful while hopeful day for the ONE day of peace I had yesterday and for the hope of adding
another day today. It is at least a start. Thank you!
Take Care,
D.
===========================================================================
Thank you so much for being available -- I still can't get over your generosity! It seems amazing to me that
I have no one to talk to about these things, and I need to rely on a stranger half way around the world -- but
God bless you for your work -- things have really improved since I started this process -- it was so out of
control, and overwhelming. -- L.W.
===========================================================================
Tara and I joined your website for our 6 year old quite a few months back. Let me say this after having gone
through many different programs for difficult children, your program is very solid. We have told our
current counselors and connections about it so that other parents of Aspergers children may use your very
good resources, too. Our AS son is to the point now where he no longer argues. – T.M.
===========================================================================
Thank you for your concern for others. My husband and I were at the end of our ropes. I prayed for
wisdom and God certainly answered my prayer. I have already tried some things on the first week actually
the day I ordered this and to my amazement - they worked!! I had already been thinking the turmoil was like
a drug for my daughter and I was right. Thank you so much and God Bless you! – E.H.
===========================================================================
I have purchased your e-book and cd’s... just wanted to say how amazing your work is proving to be. I work
in psychiatry but have struggled to discipline my Aspergers son and to understand his behaviour. I have put
in to practice the first week session and already it is working. Your insight into meltdowns is amazing... it
was like you had written it all for my son and I. Thank you, a thousand times, thank you. I’ll keep you
informed of J__’s progress, my 7 year old out of control child!
T.
===========================================================================
Would you recommend this program to friends or family?
Definitely. I have recommended it many times already.
Did you get a timely response to your emails?
I have not needed to email yet, But Mark has kept to his word on everything else, so I am confident emails
would be timely.
What was the most helpful feature of Online Parent Support?
When I started the program, I felt so lost and helpless. Mark said things that made me swear he knew my
child personally. Everything I read seemed to be about my child. This was how I knew this program was
different, and that it could work. The steps were easy to follow, and the results were fast.
What was the least helpful?
I cannot think of one thing I would change about this program. Thank you so much.
Additional Comments:
My child had been on medication for for several years. It never seemed to help the way we hoped. His anger
was out of control and most of the walls in our home had holes from him punching them. He was violent with
his siblings and distant from us. I found your program while looking for a treatment facility to send him
away to. I knew it was not safe for his brother and sister if he stayed in our home. About 2 and a half weeks
into your program we were able to take him off the medication and he continued to improve. (His doctor
insisted we were making a huge mistake and that medication was the only way to help him.) He is changing
into a more confident self-controlled person thanks to your program. He used to scream at me how much he
hated me. Now when he does not get his way he will yell, “Why are you such a good parent??? God, I love
you so much!! Why can't you be a rotten parent like my friends parents???” He will try to sound angry, but
he is letting me know he is happier with the way things are now. He is learning to diffuse tense situations as
well. We have both become better people. Thank you for giving me my son back.
K.
===========================================================================
Mark,
I just wanted to follow up to let you know that your program is spot-on! I am just starting Session 3 in your
materials and using the suggestions in my household with my 10 year old. He is blown away with my lack of
engagement with his verbal attacks, behaviors and disrespect. I'm following your advice and using my words
and actions carefully, as well as being consistent, and he is totally confused as to what happened to me. I
simply refuse to let him get me angry or engage in his misbehavior; then I talk to him about consequences of
continued behavior. It took several days of me calmly repeating myself with these new rules. He is coming to
realize that he can't push my buttons anymore.
Thank you so much for making this program so affordable and supportive for the parent!!! I think we will
make it through the next four years in a much calmer household.
D.B.
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